Are You Overworked and Under-Pleasured?
Are you overworked and under-pleasured? Do you spend a lot of time giving to your career, business, partner, friends, or family?
Helping others is important for a fulfilling life. However, are you making time for your own joy, pleasure, and sexuality?
In our busy world, our to-do lists are often a mile long, filled with obligations, responsibilities, text messages, phone calls, plus caring for our families, home, job, and others.
Growing up, I saw my parents working hard and rarely resting. As an adult, I found myself doing the same thing. I placed my own pleasure and free time at the bottom of my to-do list. However, over the years, this strategy failed me. As I passionately poured my heart into my work, I did not take time to refill my cup, and I became exhausted, stressed, sad, and sick. Since my own pleasure and self-care were last on my to-do list, I never got around to them.
Not surprisingly, since I wasn’t slowing myself down, the universe forced me to slow down through a serious health crash. During that time, I discovered a new strategy, which I now call “Prioritize Pleasure.”
As I made time for my own health, pleasure, and even sexuality, I regained my health and became a much happier, stronger person, which meant that ultimately, I had even more energy to give to my work and the people I care about.
If you are making the all-too-common mistake of “too much work and not enough play and pleasure,” the tips below will inspire you to bring back your sanity through pleasure.
What Exactly Is Pleasure?
According to the dictionary, pleasure is “a feeling of happy satisfaction and enjoyment.” Pleasure helps you enjoy life and stay happy and healthy!
Pleasure falls into 3 different categories:
- Everyday Pleasure, which involves thoroughly enjoying the present moment, such as enjoying a delicious cup of hot tea, smiling for no reason, or strolling through a park looking at gorgeous flowers.
- Sensual Pleasure, which involves being present in your body and engaging all your senses (especially your sense of touch), such as cuddling with a soft blanket, soaking in a relaxing bath, kissing, or enjoying a sensual massage.
- Sexual Pleasure, which involves enjoying your sexual energy and making love, whether by yourself or with your partner.
Are you enjoying all 3 forms of pleasure? If not, which ones are lacking in your life?
All 3 forms of pleasure contribute to your Pleasure Tank. Your Pleasure Tank is an invisible, energetic container within your body that stores the joy and pleasure from your experiences and provides you energy to draw from to fuel your life, similar to a gas tank in a car.
8 Surprising Benefits of Pleasure
Now that you know the 3 forms of pleasure (everyday, sensual, and sexual), let’s look at the 8 Surprising Benefits of Pleasure. All 3 forms of pleasure have these powerful benefits.
#1: Pleasure Relieves Stress
Pleasure brings you into the present moment and into your body, which takes attention away from the stressful thoughts of the mind.
Pleasure relaxes your body and mind and alleviates tension and stress. Whether enjoying an afternoon in nature or making love with your partner, pleasure can calm your nervous system by activating the parasympathetic (“rest and digest”) nervous system, instead of the stress-inducing sympathetic (“fight, flight, fawn, or freeze”) nervous system.
Do you tend to hold tension in your muscles? Do you get worried and uptight about your long to-do list? Enjoy pleasure more often and see how much more relaxed you become.
#2: Pleasure Opens the Portal to Prosperity (Money & Wealth)
In his legendary book Think and Grow Rich published in 1937, author Napoleon Hill shared that many millionaires had utilized “sex transmutation” to create wealth.
What?!? Sexual pleasure can help you create money? Yep. It’s true.
Sexual pleasure lights your sexual fire, which is your creative life force energy. You can utilize it to create babies or anything you want – including money.
In my 24 years of teaching and working with clients, I’ve noticed that most of us are stuck in do do do mode. After all, the traditional model of success taught us to work harder, ignore our body, take care of everyone and everything else, and save pleasure for last on our to-do list (wait – only IF we’ve earned it). If this approach were working, we would all be rich by now. Unfortunately, this approach is backfiring and causing us to repel money instead of attract it.
You can make significantly MORE money if you utilize your sexual fire and GLOW – I’m talking millions, billions, or whatever amount would support your life purpose. You are capable of having multiple orgasms and manifesting millions of dollars (or however much you wish)!
#3: Pleasure Raises Your Vibration
Pleasure feels good! Pleasure boosts our dopamine levels, the feel-good neurotransmitter in the brain.
Something as simple as buying yourself flowers can boost your mood and open your heart. Plus, pleasure gives you something to look forward to and be excited about!
Prioritizing pleasure is the best way to raise your vibration. It can help you align with the high vibration of your soul. Although the dominant vibration in society is fear, you get to decide your personal vibration on a daily basis.
Allowing more pleasure expands your capacity to receive and enjoy more love, joy, and abundance.
#4: Pleasure Fills Your Cup and Energizes You
Although giving can feel good, giving can also drain your energy supply.
Enjoying pleasure is the best way to receive and refill your cup.
Pleasure is a way that you can give to yourself, such as treating yourself to a massage or decadent meal.
Wouldn’t you love to feel energized and give from an overflowing cup, so you can continue making a meaningful contribution in the world?
#5: Pleasure Boosts Your Creativity
Chronic stress and busy-ness tend to block your creative flow. Creating space in your schedule for pleasure creates space for creativity.
When you relax and enjoy pleasure, your body and mind relax, soften, and open. This means you can receive brilliant, creative ideas and intuitive guidance that can improve your life (and even save you time, money, and energy).
My client Ashley wanted to teach a new class. She couldn’t figure out which class topic to teach, even after hours of brainstorming. She started prioritizing pleasure, and one morning, the sound of rain woke her up early. She decided to hop out of bed and play outside in the rain. While playing in the rain, the perfect creative idea effortlessly popped in her mind for her class.
#6: Pleasure Leads to Productivity
Our society values productivity over pleasure. Yet pleasure leads to improved productivity! Pleasure is just as important as hard work, because it boosts your energy, happiness, and creativity. Therefore, it allows you to accomplish more in less time with less effort. Pleasure increases your quality of work. Have you heard the phrase “Work smarter, not harder”? I say “Work hotter, not harder!”
Have you ever noticed after going on vacation how much more refreshed and energized you feel the first day back at work? Building pleasure into your everyday life allows you to have that same “after-vacation” effect every day. Woo hoo!
In the never-ending search for work-life balance, pleasure is key. In fact, why not call it work-play-pleasure balance?
#7: Pleasure Boosts Your Health
Pleasure boosts your health and happiness.
Being happy has been scientifically shown to boost your immune system, protect your heart, and reduce pain. Happiness can even potentially increase your lifespan.
Sexual pleasure also has many proven health benefits, including boosting your immune system, boosting your happiness, improving sleep, reducing stress and anxiety, and preventing long-term chronic health issues including heart disease and prostate cancer.
#8: Pleasure Helps You Get Turned On for Life!
On a daily basis, do you feel dull, rather than passionate and turned on? Your inner light deserves to shine. Pleasure lights you up and fills you with joy, so you have more energy and passion for life. It can help you feel IN LOVE with life itself.
By using these methods and prioritizing pleasure, my clients Samantha and Tom had an amazing transformation in their lives. They owned a successful company. After realizing they couldn’t keep up the fast pace anymore, they cut their work hours to part-time and started prioritizing pleasure.
Samantha and Tom moved from a busy, crowded city to a beautiful house in the mountains where they could enjoy peace and tranquility. Samantha even started working remotely instead of being in the day-to-day work grind.
They made time for connection and love, and they ended up having a beautiful baby girl. Their financial flow increased thanks to the creative, abundant ideas that came through while prioritizing pleasure. Now their entire family is thriving. If they can do it, you can too!
Action Step: Pleasure Date
Now that you know the importance of pleasure, here is a practical action step so you can get started today.
Make a list of 10 things that bring you pleasure (keep in mind the 3 types of Pleasure: (1) Everyday Pleasure, (2) Sensual Pleasure, and (3) Sexual Pleasure).
Afterward, pull out your calendar and schedule in a Pleasure Date with yourself in the next 7 days.
Then spend that time in total joy or pleasure, however, your heart guides you!
You can have work-play-pleasure balance, which leaves you feeling happy and energized with an overflowing cup of love and joy.
Pleasure is just the start. Pleasure is the foreplay (oooh la la!) for my G.L.O.W. and Grow Rich System, which teaches you how to light your sexual fire and get your GLOW on so you can manifest money through pleasure and uplevel your business or career, love life, and sex life too.
I would love to connect with you and explore how I can help you! Apply for a complimentary Spark Your Sexual Fire Session here.
